Why your friendships REALLY matter
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Talking about friendships and relationships, let's get real!
At the moment it may not seem like it, but I can tell you from my experience that choosing the right friends is one of the most important decisions you'll ever make, and it matters in the long run. The friendship groups you form and the people you let influence your decisions help to guide the direction your future takes. I know this sounds like a very adult thing to say, but my personal experiences tells me it’s the truth!
Have you ever heard people say things like “show me your friends and I’ll tell you who you are”, or “birds of the same feather flock together”? I promise you, truer words have not been spoken.
I’ll use myself as a case study at this point in the article - the influence my friendship groups and relationships had over me at a young age was particularly strong. I did not like much attention and did not want to stick out and be noticed, and I already did based on the fact that I was always the youngest in all of my friendship groups. For that very reason, I would always go along with what everyone else said rather than stick out like a sore thumb, and this decision led to me making so many mistakes and having so many regrets that honestly speaking up could have been avoided.
I have also learnt that no one is meant to do this life by themselves and for this reason we need to carefully choose who to do life with, be this regarding friends or relationships. This is why the bible says we were created as man and women together - so we would have company and we would always have someone to rely on.
Having the right type of friends and being in the right kind of relationships can be achieved by being intentional about who you are and not compromising on this, because indeed you will attract like minded people. In saying this however, we still must be willing to take risks, and allow ourselves to get to know others , although carefully keeping in mind that although we have a lot to gain, a little of ourselves can still be lost along the way.
So as we seek genuine friends and live the message of Solomon from the Bible who said “if we want friends we must be friendly”, we should keep at the back of our mind friendships and relationships are a deciding element with regards to the direction your life is to take. So be picky, because it literally can determine your future, and this is an area where you do not want to experience regrets.