Why your friendships really matter
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Choosing the right friends is one of the most important decisions you'll ever make.
Have you ever heard people say things like, “show me your friends and I’ll tell you who you are,” or “birds of a feather flock together”? The friendship groups you form will influence the decisions you make and in that affect the direction your life takes. I know this from personal experience.
The influence my friendships had over me at a young age was particularly strong.
I did not like much attention and didn't want to stick out and be noticed, and I already did based on the fact that I was always the youngest in all of my friendship groups. For that reason, I would always go along with what everyone else said, rather than stick out like a sore thumb. That decision led to me making so many mistakes and having so many regrets that honestly speaking up would have been better.
I have also learnt that no-one is meant to do this life by themselves and for this reason we need to carefully choose who to do life with, be this regarding friends or relationships. This is why the Bible says we were created as men and women together - so we would have company and we would always have someone to rely on.
Having the right type of friends and being in the right kind of relationships can be achieved by being intentional about who you are and not compromising on this, because you will attract like minded people.
In saying this, we do still need to take risks and allow ourselves to get to know different types of people.
As we seek genuine friends, we also need to live out the message of Solomon from the Bible who said, “if we want friends we must be friendly.”
Friendships can literally determine our future, so we need to be diligent in all ways.